Good Morning! It's 3AM as I write this. I had forgotten about my little adventure into blogging until tonight. Upon being reminded, I took a stroll down memory lane and was quite entertained by my own musings; that, and the fact that I remembered my PASSWORD!! I was also reminded about how much I enjoyed utilizing this particular creative outlet and thought I might try to pick it back up.
It's been over two years since my last post and, man oh man, has life been crazy, busy, fast, loud, full, and LOVELY! I contemplated what to write about for a solid 6.5 minutes where I tried to compress the highlights of the last two years and I successfully overwhelmed myself. My coworker and I are having an unusually _____________ (insert appropriate, but unutterable adjective here due to the superstitious beliefs of most night nurses) night and she is planning to move out of state in a few short weeks to be closer to her boyfriend who is allergic to her dog.
She is making a list of what to pack, what to buy, etc... and she says "I found a futon I like that doesn't cost a fortune, it's leather so I can keep dog hair off of it, I also found a pet hair removal system with great reviews, and a furniture cover that is fleece-like and supposed to be resistant to hair and waterproof!" She proceeds to try to talk herself out of these things: "Is it too much? Am I overspending?"
"It's only overspending if you can't afford it." I replied.
She turned to me wide-eyed and smiling and said "KIM! I think I need you to be my life coach!" I laugh, but not really because this is the second time someone has said exactly this to me in the last two days! What is a life coach anyway?? Are they useful? Is it a real profession? Does it PAY WELL??? What makes one qualified to coach the life of another? I have a lot of life experience, I've traveled, I have three degrees, I am an advanced practice RN, I've been skydiving, I've been married and divorced, I'm a mom, I've trained dogs and horses, I've tricked children into eating vegetables and they LIKED it, I've loved, I've lost, I've made big mistakes, I've hurt more people than I care to think about....perhaps I could've benefited from a life coach! But does any of that mean I should actually BE one?
Offering insight so that someone might consider the feelings of another hardly seems like a talent. Making an off handed observation that a person would probably have managed on his/her own eventually isn't a skill. Reassuring a brilliant, perfectly competent, and kind human being that she IS in fact good enough, strong enough, capable enough to do the scary things she imagines is more of a thing that a friend does than a "life coach" isn't it? I am good at reserving judgement, and sometimes avoiding judging at all. I also have a high level of empathy and can often consider how my own actions or words might affect another. I am capable of identifying opinion and allowing it to simply be that; it is not necessary for everyone in my path, life, social circle, or work environment to be like minded to myself. I appreciate different views, but realize that when it comes to opinions, no one is going to change theirs simply because mine isn't the same so it's better to hear them, acknowledge them, and in the event I disagree, to shut my mouth and let them go. Perhaps that is the difficulty for most, in the age where social media seems to rule, we forget that people are the most important things. Their hearts, their souls, not whether they are right or wrong, not whether or not we agree with each other all the time. In the last two days, I have made two people feel better, happier, stronger, and safer in their own decision making and problem solving skills.....It wasn't difficult. It did not require the use of any of my college degrees. If that's a life coach, then I am proud to be one, and I encourage all of us to pursue our inner life coaches for ourselves and all the lives we could potentially touch.
#BackOnTheWagon #DoUntoOthers #WalkAMileInTheirShoes
Keep Smiling and God Bless!
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